High Conflict Divorce Coach-decoding child custody, communications, and co-parenting
Hello, I'm a survivor, a warrior, and a guiding light for anyone walking through the darkness of divorcing a narcissist. My name may not tell my story, but my experiences—marked by pain, resilience, and eventual triumph—will resonate with those who have been caught in the abusive battles that take place behind closed doors.
I met, fell in love with, and married someone I thought I'd be with forever. After the wedding, he looked at me and said, "I own you now." I shrugged it off, very funny, I thought, little did I know my nightmare was just beginning or better yet what a narcissist was.
I was slowly gas-lighted, torn down, financially, mentally, and physically abused. I went from a confident person to riddled with self-doubt. How did I let this happen, and worse yet I didn't even know it was going on because he had me convinced everything was my fault.
I got pregnant and knew I had to get out for my baby girl's safety. She could not see how her strong, confident mom was being ripped apart.
I naively thought the courts had to support me, and when I told them the truth, they would see I was only trying to protect my daughter from a similar fate. What an idiot I was. I was alone, with no friends and no family in my state. My voice, it appeared, faltered against my ex's wrath.
When my ex received the divorce papers, he went ballistic. And just because he moved out doesn't mean any of the abuse stopped, it got much, much worse. He would not relent, even after our separation. I felt let down by the world, and there were more nights where I cried myself to sleep than didn't. I am here to say I went through this like you, and I know what it's like to second guess everything you do and to exist as a shell of who you used to be. But as I cradled my three-month-old, her dependency on me forged my resolve. She was my anchor, and through her, I learned true strength.
I realized no one was coming to rescue me and I had to learn how to protect my child and myself. To do that I had to learn how to parent my child through the abuse and gaslighting she was getting from her father when she was older. I learned about the courts and what they expected from me and learned how to save money by doing as much by myself as I could. But most importantly I had to rebuild myself, rediscover my courage, speak my truth, and lead by the love I have for my child.
Are you ready to empower yourself with the knowledge to make the right decision in the eyes of the court and your family? Are you ready to move forward without fear of what's to come next? By joining my private membership, you will learn to move through pain, depression, and anxiety, towards empowerment, confidence, and knowledge. You’re don’t have to go through this alone.
A divorce coach and a therapist each offer their own unique kind of support to any individual going through the difficult experience of divorce.
The key difference lies in the approach: a divorce coach takes a more active role, guiding clients by providing helpful tools, like how to document best for court, or how best to present your case, and how to handle triggering emails, offering advice and direction so clients can develop practical strategies for navigating their divorce in the most effective way.
A therapist is typically more removed from the situation in terms of offering advice, instead focusing on helping individuals unpack their emotions involved with the divorce process.
Both approaches have value, giving people access to resources that can empower them to take a positive approach during this painful and expensive chapter of life..